Wednesday, July 17, 2019

Enough is Enough

Enough is enough
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I'm wearing: 

1. Denim jacket in blue acid wash, from Stradivarius. 
2. Embroidered t-shirt in white, Morris & Co. x H&M.
3. Super skinny jeans in black, from Pull & Bear. 
4. Hi-top canvas sneakers, from Vans.
5. Squirrel ring, from Gearbest.
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I'm a pretty chill guy, you know? I don't seek confrontation but I also don't run away from it. If I can fix something, I'll try my hardest to accomplish that goal. For as long as I can remember, I've always been a leader, not a follower (and I don't mean this in a mean or condescending way, I've known great people who don't have leadership skills and are doing great in life... And I care deeply about them), but in some scenarios, certain people think they can bully their way around and push you to the limit.

That happens a lot with my older sister (we live together). It's not that I don't love her, it's just that I heavily dislike certain aspects of her personality, so, sometimes I love her, other times, I don't wanna be around her. One of the things that I don't like is that she thinks she can push me around because she's older and, most of the times, I avoid fighting because it drains my energy... But enough is enough and, once in a blue moon, I bite back, I don't regret doing it. There are scenarios when we need to defend ourselves and put a stop to people that try to bring us down and they don't like that. They will get mad and try to turn the tables on you but it's important that we remember that we have our limits and we need to put ourselves first. 

I've always said: the moment you stop adding something to my life, you're out, family, friend, whoever you are. I know it sounds very cold and clinical but it's something I had to implement in my life in order to survive. Having someone testing your boundaries to the point of making you think like that is not nice, making you feel bad about defending yourself isn't either. What I want you to take out of this post (that I'm also using as a reminder for myself) is exactly that, learn your limits, put your foot down, and don't let people take advantage of you. Love yourself first.

// Soy bastante tranquilo ¿saben? No busco crear conflictos pero tampoco huyo de ellos. Si puedo arreglar algo, voy a intentar llegar a esa meta con mucha energía. Desde que puedo recordar, siempre he sido un líder, no un seguidor (y no digo seguidor en una forma condescendiente o malvada, conozco gente grandiosa que no tiene madera de líder y que les está yendo muy bien en la vida... Y los aprecio muchísimo), pero en algunos escenarios, ciertas personas creen que pueden agredir para avanzar y empujaste al límite.

Eso pasa mucho con mi hermana mayor (vivimos juntos). No es que no la ame, es que realmente me desagradan algunos aspectos de su personalidad, así que, a veces la amo, otras veces, no la quiero a mi alrededor. Una de las cosas que no me gustan es que ella piensa que puede ser abusiva conmigo porque es mayor y, la mayor parte de las ocasiones, evito pelear porque me drena la energía... Pero ya es suficiente y, una vez cada millón de años, reacciono de regreso, no me arrepiento de hacerlo. Hay escenarios donde necesitamos defendernos y ponerle un alto a las personas que tratan de hacernos menos y a ellas no les gusta. Se ponen muy molestas y tratan de girar la situación en tu contra pero es importante que recordemos que tenemos nuestros límites y que debemos ponernos como prioridad.

Siempre he dicho: el momento en que dejas de agregar algo a mi vida, te vas, familia, amigo, quien quiera que seas. Sé que suena muy frío y cortante pero es algo que tenía que implementar en mi vida para poder sobrevivir. Tener a alguien que ponga a prueba tus límites al punto de llevarte a pensar así no es lindo, que te hagan sentir mal por defenderte tampoco lo es. Lo que quiero que se les quede con este post (que también estoy utilizando como un recordatorio para mí) es justo eso, aprender cuáles son tus límites, ponerte firme y no dejar que la gente tome ventaja de ti. Primero hay que amarse a sí mismo.
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Love always,
Henry.

Currently listening: BTS - Lost.

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