Sunday, August 9, 2015

Shrinking Violet

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shrinking violet 4 I'm wearing:

1. Long coat in black, from H&M.
2. Striped t-shirt in blue, from Zara.
3. Denim shorts, from Pull & Bear.
4. Mortimer suede boots in blue, from Frank Wright.
5. Reading glasses, from H&M.
6. Necklace, also from H&M.
7. Chunky socks, from A Land Korea.
Get a similar look with East Dane
Forge boots, from H by Hudson / 2 Button coat, from AMI / Stripe t-shirt, from E. Tautz / Dean shorts, from Won Hundred.   
shrinking violet 6 Hello best friends; I heard the expression shrinking violet the other day and it stuck with me ever since. By definition, a shrinking violet is an extremely shy person, to the point where he's almost invisible; it's someone who's not a big fan of speaking up when in large groups and is hesitant to share his opinions within those. I am like that sometimes and I've learned to be okay with that.

During my school years, I always relied on one or two people to be my closest friends; those were the guys I'd do everything with. Starting from high school, I tried to get involved with more people, to be nicer and mingle (while still keeping those close friends, well, close). That proved to work wonderfully; people were noticing me, they knew who I was and appreciated me just because I said hello or had small conversations with them, that was amazing. But that also made me realize that I kind of fall in the background when it comes to big groups of people. I get shy and nervous, so I focus on talking to one or two people from the group and being as charming as possible.

Being a shrinking violet is okay from time to time. It gives you a good chance to observe and analyze situations without getting too involved. You start noticing things and, let us never forget, that information is power. I don't like being around many people but my shrinking violet traits help me figure out how to be a team player and become a key character in said team. It allows me to choose the people I want to be closer with. And, for me and many other guys, shyness is sort of charming, you know? So allow yourself to be shy when you feel like it. It's okay.

// Hola mejores amigos; escuché la expresión shrinking violet el otro día y se quedó conmigo desde entonces. Por definición, shrinking violet se refiere a una persona extremadamente penosa, al punto en que es casi invisible; es alguien que no es muy dado a hablar en público cuando está en grupos grandes y piensa mucho antes de compartir sus opiniones con ellos. Yo soy así a veces y aprendí a estar bien con eso.

En mis años de colegio, siempre dependí de una o dos personas para ser mis amigos más cercanos; esas eran las personas con los que hacía todo. Desde preparatoria, traté de involucrarme con más gente, de ser más amable y convivir (mientras mantenía a mis amigos cercanos, pues, cercanos). Eso probó funcionar de maravilla; la gente me notaba, sabían quién era y me apreciaban sólo porque les decía hola o tenía pequeñas pláticas con ellos, era increíble. Pero eso también me hizo dar cuenta que, en grupos grandes, tiendo a perderme en el fondo. Me pongo penoso y con nervios y mi foco está en hablar con una o dos personas del grupo y ser tan encantador como pueda.

Ser un shrinking violet está bien de vez en cuando. Te da una buena oportunidad de observar y analizar situaciones sin involucrarte tanto. Empiezas a notar cosas y, no olvidemos esto jamás, esa información es poder. No me gusta estar alrededor de mucha gente pero mis características de shrinking violet me ayudan a entender cómo ser un mejor jugador de equipo y convertirme en un personaje clave en dicho equipo. Me permite elegir la gente con quien quiero ser más cercano. Y, para mí y muchas otras personas, la timidez es algo encantador, ¿saben? Así que permítanse ser tímidos cuando se sientan así. Está todo bien. 
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  1. Wonderful that you start to get out of your comfort zone and talk to new people, but I agree on just being your true self.
    It's more captivating! :)

    Best, Albert | Palming Pebbles
    Palming Pebbles FB

  2. ohh wow man, I love that outfit!
    have a nice sunday!


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