Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Forgive & Forget

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I'm wearing: 

1. Oversized bow tie in black, from Zaful.
2. Striped shirt, from H&M.
3. Super skinny jeans in black, from Bershka.
4. Leather Chelsea boots in black, from Frank Wright.
5. Rings, from H&M.
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"Forgive and forget" is a phrase that we've heard a million times before, right? It usually means ending a conflict, forgiving certain actions, forgetting about them and moving forward; that route is common, we've all been there, but there's another way of interpreting this phrase, one that comes along the lines: I wanna forgive you and I wanna forget you. Harsh but sometimes necessary. 

Throughout the month, I've been talking about compassion, how we need to be nicer, wiser, kinder but there are moments where we need to be different, mature but not naive, where we need to let go of people because they're mean, they're hurting us and keeping them around isn't good for us. That, my friends, is very difficult because (if you're anything like me) we always feel like problems can be fixed, that we can save relationships but, sadly, that's not always the case.

I've had my share of people that have hurt me, people that I've forgiven and kept in my life for years, avoiding the painful truth that they don't belong here and need to go, giving compassion because everybody makes mistakes, right? But I'm trying to be better than that because I deserve better friends, I deserve better relationships so, yeah, I forgive them and try to let go of emotions and bad juju but I also forget them, push them out and make room for others who are worthy of my time and energy. I strongly suggest you try and do the same, it's good for you.

// "Perdonar y olvidar" es una frase que hemos escuchado un millón de veces en el pasado, ¿cierto? Usualmente se refiere a terminar con un conflicto, perdonar ciertas acciones, olvidarse de ello y seguir adelante; esa ruta es común, todos hemos estado ahí, pero hay otra forma de interpretar esta frase, una que viene por el camino de: Quiero perdonarte y quiero olvidarte. Duro, pero a veces necesario.

Durante el mes, he hablado mucho de compasión, cómo necesitamos ser más buenos, sabios, amables, pero hay momentos donde necesitamos ser diferentes, maduros pero no ingenuos, donde necesitamos dejar ir a personas porque son malas, nos están lastimando y mantenerlas cerca no es bueno para nosotros. Eso, mis amigos, es muy difícil porque (si se parecen un poco a mí) siempre sentimos que los problemas pueden ser solucionados, que podemos salvar las relaciones pero, tristemente, eso no siempre es el caso.

He tenido una buena dosis de personas que me han lastimado, personas que he perdonado y mantenido en mi vida por años, evadiendo la dolorosa verdad de que no pertenecen aquí y se necesitan ir, dando compasión porque todos cometemos errores, ¿no? Pero estoy intentando ser mejor que eso porque merezco mejores amigos, merezco mejores relaciones, así que sí, los perdono y trato de dejar ir las malas emociones y mal juju pero, al mismo tiempo, los dejo ir, los saco y hago lugar para otros que sí son dignos de mi tiempo y energía. Les sugiero fuertemente que ustedes también traten de hacer esto, es bueno para el alma.
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Photographer: Alex Ivanisevic, from Mex Alex.

Currently listening: RAC - Maybes.

1 comment:

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